The Most Important Moment Of Your Life Is Right Now

For a big portion of my life, I was what I called a "looper." Something bad or embarrassing would happen — something I did, or something someone did to me — and I would replay it in my mind endlessly. Over and over. A memory that should have been a moment would become a prison.

I remember one moment vividly.

I had been working incredibly hard on a TV show, getting a lot of praise behind the scenes from my boss. Then, during a meeting with all the network executives, he had a complete meltdown and publicly attacked me. It stunned me. I was hurt and confused — but also determined to clear the air.

So at the end of the day, after the entire staff had gone home, I went into his office to have a calm conversation. I thought it would help. I thought it would show professionalism. Instead, he exploded again — worse this time — calling me names, personally attacking me, tearing me down.

I went home devastated.
I could only focus on this terrible loop.
I couldn’t function.

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I looped the entire event in my head, blaming myself for having the courage to speak up.

That's what loopers do:

We blame ourselves for being human. We convince ourselves we did something to deserve the mistreatment. We torture ourselves with the past — something we can't change.

It almost makes me laugh now.
How could I have blamed myself for trying to do the right thing?

Learning about presence — especially through Eckhart Tolle and meditation — finally taught me to break free from the loop. It taught me something simple but life-changing:

The most important moment of your life is right now.
And now.
And now.

The only moment that matters is this one.

Now is where happiness lives.
Now is where your future is shaped.
Now is where every action that changes your life happens.

Your past?
It’s just a memory of a memory of a memory — distorted by time, emotion, and perception.
It isn’t even real anymore.

Now is real.
Now is the only thing that's real.

And here's the beautiful part:
If you didn’t take advantage of "now" before? That’s okay.
Because now is here again. Right now.

Three Ways to Stay in the Now:

1. Notice your loops.

When you catch yourself replaying something from the past, say to yourself: "That’s not happening anymore." Bring your attention gently back to this moment.

2. Create an anchor.

Use simple reminders — like focusing on your breath, feeling your feet on the ground, or asking yourself, "What’s happening right in front of me?" — to stay grounded in now.

3. Forgive yourself quickly.

The past does not define you.
You are not the mistakes you made or the pain you endured.
Forgiveness — especially for yourself — unlocks your power to be present.

You don’t have to be perfect to be free.
You just have to be here.
And you already are.

Why “I’m Not Good Enough” Isn’t the Truth — and How to Move Past It

I’m Not Good Enough!

Have you ever heard that voice kicking around in your head? I know I have. It often pops up just when you're building the courage to chase something you really want. Maybe you think, "I'm going to start writing that screenplay." And then the doubt creeps in: "Who are you fooling? Everyone will laugh at you. You’re too old to start something like that."

Whether it’s learning to play guitar, switching careers, or writing a blog, negative self-talk shows up in many forms. But if you boil it down, it often centers around the belief: “I’m not good enough.”

I’ve worked with so many clients who struggle with this exact thought. And honestly? I’ve battled it myself too. Often times, we don’t even know it is there. It isn’t something we consciously walk around saying. That is what makes it even more detrimental. It is lurking around in your subconscious mind and blocking you from achieving what you want in life.

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), believing “I’m not good enough” is a limiting decision.
Like all limiting decisions, it wasn’t something you were born believing. At some point — usually before the age of seven — something happened that made you decide, deep in your subconscious mind, that you weren't good enough.

Maybe it was a teacher’s harsh comment. Maybe it was a moment where you felt unseen or unimportant. Whatever the trigger was, it planted a seed — and unless you pull it out by the roots, it can quietly shape your life for decades.

One of my favorite tools to work with this is something from NLP called Parts Integration. When I use this with a client, I help them connect to the part of themselves that feels "not good enough" — and the part that knows they are capable and worthy. Instead of fighting with these parts, we integrate them. Because even that voice of doubt is trying, in its own way, to protect you — usually from disappointment, embarrassment, or failure.

But staying "safe" often means staying small. And you were meant for more than that. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “not good enough,” here’s something to remember:

That belief was learned.
Anything learned can be unlearned.
And you have everything you need inside you to move forward.

You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re not too late.

Here are three simple tools you can start using today to move through those feelings of “not good enough”:

1. What If? — Imagine the Possibility

Ask yourself:

"What would it look like if I was good enough?"

Spend a few minutes journaling two short paragraphs where you are already enough.
What are you doing?
How do people respond to you?
What does your life look and sound like?

By stepping into this "what if" world, you begin creating new pathways in your brain — and new possibilities in your life.

2. Memory Lane — Gather Your Evidence

Think back to three times in your life when you took a chance — and it worked out. Maybe it was a job you landed, a project you finished, or a relationship you built.

Write down these three memories in a journal.
Then revisit them every morning for the next week.
Let them remind you:

You’ve been good enough all along.

3. Redefine Failure — Success by Learning

What if you could see failure as just feedback?

Instead of seeing a mistake as proof you’re not good enough, see it as one more step toward finding what does work.

Every "failure" is simply a test that brings you one step closer to success.

Final Thought

That voice that says you're not good enough?
It was never the truth.
It was just a story your younger self created to try to stay safe.

You don’t have to believe it anymore.

You are more ready than you think.

And your next step — no matter how small — is enough.

If this resonated with you and you want to dive deeper, feel free to reach out. Helping people move beyond these old stories is one of my greatest joys. FREE CONSULTATION