There Is No Finish Line

Life can feel a lot like one of those Greyhound dog races.

All the dogs are sprinting, chasing a mechanical rabbit they’re never going to catch. And the crowd cheers. But the truth is, that rabbit was never meant to be caught. It’s just there to keep the race going.

A lot of us live our lives the same way—believing that once we achieve our goal, everything will be okay. We’ll finally feel happy. Finally feel secure. Finally feel worthy.

But here’s the truth:
There is no finish line.

There is no magical moment when life gets “fixed.” No promotion, relationship, or number on the scale that will make all the pain go away.

Goals are great—I love them.
But they’re not destinations.
They’re stepping stones.
And if you mistake them for your salvation, they will break your heart.

When I Thought I “Made It”

I remember the first time I came to New York City to interview for The Rosie O’Donnell Show. I was laughed out of the room. Wearing a suit. Holding a briefcase. I felt like a joke.

As I left the building, dejected, someone invited me into the audience of Late Night with Conan O’Brien. It was magical. I even danced onstage during his warm-up, and he called me Mini-Harry Connick Jr. I swore to myself right then:

I will come back here. I will have my own show in this building.

Fast forward 20 years.

I’m sitting in the executive suite at 30 Rock across from the president of NBC. He says yes to a new talk show I pitched with Meredith Vieira.

And just like that… I was producing a show in the same studio where I once danced in the audience.

At first, it was a dream come true.

But then excitement turned into anxiety.

Instead of producing from joy and confidence, I was producing from fear.
I wasn’t celebrating—I was gripping. Afraid of losing it.

The Real Work Is Internal

This is what happens when you mistake a goal for healing.

You set out to lose 50 pounds, and the compliments keep you going. Then you hit the number, and suddenly… the praise stops. And so does your motivation.

You gain it all back.
Because what you really needed wasn’t weight loss.
It was validation.
Belonging.
Worth.

No external success can fill that hole.

Only you can.

So yes—set your goals. Chase them. Celebrate the wins.
Just don’t confuse them with your self-worth.

Because in life, there is no finish line.
There’s only the step you’re on.
Make sure it’s rooted in love—not lack.

Are You Your Own Superhero?

When I started out as a producer, I was constantly looking for what I didn’t have.

I entered the business with a thick Massachusetts accent. My dad worked in a factory, and all my friends were blue-collar guys. Suddenly, I found myself in a world full of Ivy Leaguers who were worldly and sophisticated. They laughed at references I didn’t understand — jokes about characters from novels I’d never read.

At the time, I was working as a production assistant. The executive producer of the show was the most charismatic person I had ever met. He was British, and he could make anything sound amazing. One time, I was pitching an idea I had spent weeks developing, and in the middle of it he interrupted to say, “I think I’ll have a turkey sandwich for lunch.”

Suddenly, everyone in the room perked up. They’d barely listened to my pitch, but his turkey sandwich announcement? Applause-worthy. That’s how magnetic he was.

Later, he walked in one day and said, “I sold a show called When Twins Go Bad.” I asked what it was about. He said, “That’s what I have you for. Now, where’s my turkey sandwich?”

He could literally sell a show based on the title alone.

I remember thinking: I’ll never be that guy. Maybe I’m not cut out for this.

The co-executive producer was the ultimate smooth operator. He flirted with the host. Gave her massages before the show. It worked for him. But for me? I’m pretty sure I would’ve been arrested and escorted off the premises.

I thought, Well, I can’t do that either. So… now what?

I kept working and creating. Taking meetings. Getting better. Getting sharper. All while working alongside James Bond and Casanova.

Then one day, as I was rising up the ranks, the executive producer pulled me aside. He said,
“Your gift is that this staff respects you. They will do anything for you.”

It hit me.

My superpower wasn’t a British accent or flirtation skills.
My superpower was me.

It was my sense of humor.
It was how deeply I cared about the team.
It was how I made people feel seen, safe, and human — even in high-pressure situations.

I wasn’t the loudest voice in the room, but I made sure the voices around me mattered.

And guess what? That’s how I became an executive producer. Not by copying someone else’s powers — but by owning mine.

So often in life, we look at the people who have what we want and assume the only way to get it is to be them.

But that was their road to success.
You can pave your own.

By all means, have role models. Learn from those who’ve come before you. But remember:
You have gifts they don’t have.
And they have gifts that aren't meant to be yours.

When you try to play to someone else’s strengths, you stop developing your own. That’s a losing game.

Shaquille O’Neal is a Hall of Famer. So is Kobe Bryant.

Did they train hard? Yes.
Did they have grit? Of course.
But their blueprints were entirely different.

There are many roads to success.
The shortest one? The road you’re meant to be on — powered by the resources you already have.

Want to Discover Your Superpower? Start Here:

1. Audit Your Edge – What do people thank you for the most? What comes naturally to you that others struggle with? That’s often your hidden strength.

2. Stop Performing, Start Showing Up – The more real you are, the more valuable you become.

3. Trust the “Uncool” Stuff – Humor. Kindness. Clarity. Heart. The things you think are small? That’s where your impact lives.

If You’re Reading This:

Stop comparing your journey to someone else’s highlight reel.

You don’t need to become them.
You need to become more of you.

That’s your edge.
That’s your fuel.
That’s your superhero origin story.

Knowledge Is Power - Just Be Careful Where You Get It

In today’s world, it’s impossible to scroll through social media without stumbling upon an “expert” sharing life-changing advice. Maybe you’re simply looking to learn how to knit scarves for your family, but before you know it, you’re bombarded with videos promising you that you can scale your scarf business to $10K a month. Whatever your goal—whether it’s improving your real estate leads or launching a side hustle—someone will claim to have the secret sauce to success and, of course, they want to sell it to you.

Here’s the problem. Many of these experts use scare tactics to make you feel inadequate. They drag you through endless content, feeding you promises of riches and success, while failing to deliver any real value. You might Google something simple like, "How do I increase my real estate leads?" and end up on a video that looks like this:

“Only 5% of realtors make it to their second year. Don’t be a statistic. I’ve helped thousands of realtors transform their businesses overnight. But I won’t tell you exactly how I do it. What I will tell you is that there are three keys to success that I can’t fully share here. However, for just $90 (down from $9,995!), I’ll send you my course, my workbook, and a mystery bonus you won’t want to miss.”

It doesn’t matter what you’re trying to achieve—there’s someone out there making big promises. And often, they’re offering very little in terms of substance.

Take it from me. Once I started posting content—videos, blogs, and even launching a website—the unsolicited messages began flooding in. Some were helpful; others, not so much. Like the time I got a DM from someone telling me, “It’s sad to see what’s happening to you. You’re putting out content, and nobody’s watching. But don’t worry—I can help you get 10K followers in just a few months.” This person had 476 followers.

I’ve been solicited by people promising to take me to the “promised land” at least 50 times in just this year alone. It’s tempting to think that there’s some shortcut to success, but here’s the truth: most of these people are experts in one thing—selling dreams, not results.

But that doesn’t mean all advice is bad. There are people out there who genuinely offer value. I like to think I’m one of them. The key is recognizing that many of these "expert" tactics work because they prey on a limiting belief: the feeling that you're not good enough. They sell you a dream, but it’s not the reality of business growth.

Building something that lasts comes down to two things: action and reaction. You need to take consistent action, analyze what works and what doesn’t, and adjust your strategy. Knowledge is power—but only when it’s applied correctly. If you can find someone who’s been where you want to go, who’s achieved the success you’re after, learn from them. Just make sure they’ve actually done it, rather than just talking about it.

3 Keys to Trusting the Source

1. They offer real value, not just sales pitches. If their content is packed with helpful advice, subscribe. If it’s all fluff and fear-mongering, steer clear.

2. They don’t guarantee specific results. No one can promise that you’ll achieve certain outcomes. The best experts give you the tools to succeed, but it’s up to you to take action.

3. They’ve actually done what they’re teaching. It’s one thing to talk about success; it’s another to prove you’ve lived it.

Be cautious about where you get your knowledge. Choose wisely, and make sure that what you’re learning is truly worth your time.

AND most importantly, don’t let the noise discourage you from what it is you want to achieve. That noise is intended to scare you and make you feel like you aren’t good enough. You can do it! Take action and learn from the right people!