There Is No Finish Line
We spend our lives chasing success, self-worth, and purpose like greyhounds after a mechanical rabbit—fast, determined… and never able to catch it. But what if the problem isn’t that we’re not running hard enough? What if the problem is the rabbit itself.
Life can feel a lot like one of those Greyhound dog races.
All the dogs are sprinting, chasing a mechanical rabbit they’re never going to catch. And the crowd cheers. But the truth is, that rabbit was never meant to be caught. It’s just there to keep the race going.
A lot of us live our lives the same way—believing that once we achieve our goal, everything will be okay. We’ll finally feel happy. Finally feel secure. Finally feel worthy.
But here’s the truth:
There is no finish line.
There is no magical moment when life gets “fixed.” No promotion, relationship, or number on the scale that will make all the pain go away.
Goals are great—I love them.
But they’re not destinations.
They’re stepping stones.
And if you mistake them for your salvation, they will break your heart.
When I Thought I “Made It”
I remember the first time I came to New York City to interview for The Rosie O’Donnell Show. I was laughed out of the room. Wearing a suit. Holding a briefcase. I felt like a joke.
As I left the building, dejected, someone invited me into the audience of Late Night with Conan O’Brien. It was magical. I even danced onstage during his warm-up, and he called me Mini-Harry Connick Jr. I swore to myself right then:
I will come back here. I will have my own show in this building.
Fast forward 20 years.
I’m sitting in the executive suite at 30 Rock across from the president of NBC. He says yes to a new talk show I pitched with Meredith Vieira.
And just like that… I was producing a show in the same studio where I once danced in the audience.
At first, it was a dream come true.
But then excitement turned into anxiety.
Instead of producing from joy and confidence, I was producing from fear.
I wasn’t celebrating—I was gripping. Afraid of losing it.
The Real Work Is Internal
This is what happens when you mistake a goal for healing.
You set out to lose 50 pounds, and the compliments keep you going. Then you hit the number, and suddenly… the praise stops. And so does your motivation.
You gain it all back.
Because what you really needed wasn’t weight loss.
It was validation.
Belonging.
Worth.
No external success can fill that hole.
Only you can.
So yes—set your goals. Chase them. Celebrate the wins.
Just don’t confuse them with your self-worth.
Because in life, there is no finish line.
There’s only the step you’re on.
Make sure it’s rooted in love—not lack.
Why “I’m Not Good Enough” Isn’t the Truth — and How to Move Past It
The subconscious mind holds onto beliefs we’ve carried for years—often the ones that tell us we’re not enough. But those beliefs can be rewritten. You have the power to challenge the narrative and step into the life you truly deserve.
I’m Not Good Enough!
Have you ever heard that voice kicking around in your head? I know I have. It often pops up just when you're building the courage to chase something you really want. Maybe you think, "I'm going to start writing that screenplay." And then the doubt creeps in: "Who are you fooling? Everyone will laugh at you. You’re too old to start something like that."
Whether it’s learning to play guitar, switching careers, or writing a blog, negative self-talk shows up in many forms. But if you boil it down, it often centers around the belief: “I’m not good enough.”
I’ve worked with so many clients who struggle with this exact thought. And honestly? I’ve battled it myself too. Often times, we don’t even know it is there. It isn’t something we consciously walk around saying. That is what makes it even more detrimental. It is lurking around in your subconscious mind and blocking you from achieving what you want in life.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), believing “I’m not good enough” is a limiting decision.
Like all limiting decisions, it wasn’t something you were born believing. At some point — usually before the age of seven — something happened that made you decide, deep in your subconscious mind, that you weren't good enough.
Maybe it was a teacher’s harsh comment. Maybe it was a moment where you felt unseen or unimportant. Whatever the trigger was, it planted a seed — and unless you pull it out by the roots, it can quietly shape your life for decades.
One of my favorite tools to work with this is something from NLP called Parts Integration. When I use this with a client, I help them connect to the part of themselves that feels "not good enough" — and the part that knows they are capable and worthy. Instead of fighting with these parts, we integrate them. Because even that voice of doubt is trying, in its own way, to protect you — usually from disappointment, embarrassment, or failure.
But staying "safe" often means staying small. And you were meant for more than that. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “not good enough,” here’s something to remember:
That belief was learned.
Anything learned can be unlearned.
And you have everything you need inside you to move forward.
You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re not too late.
Here are three simple tools you can start using today to move through those feelings of “not good enough”:
1. What If? — Imagine the Possibility
Ask yourself:
"What would it look like if I was good enough?"
Spend a few minutes journaling two short paragraphs where you are already enough.
What are you doing?
How do people respond to you?
What does your life look and sound like?
By stepping into this "what if" world, you begin creating new pathways in your brain — and new possibilities in your life.
2. Memory Lane — Gather Your Evidence
Think back to three times in your life when you took a chance — and it worked out. Maybe it was a job you landed, a project you finished, or a relationship you built.
Write down these three memories in a journal.
Then revisit them every morning for the next week.
Let them remind you:
You’ve been good enough all along.
3. Redefine Failure — Success by Learning
What if you could see failure as just feedback?
Instead of seeing a mistake as proof you’re not good enough, see it as one more step toward finding what does work.
Every "failure" is simply a test that brings you one step closer to success.
Final Thought
That voice that says you're not good enough?
It was never the truth.
It was just a story your younger self created to try to stay safe.
You don’t have to believe it anymore.
You are more ready than you think.
And your next step — no matter how small — is enough.
If this resonated with you and you want to dive deeper, feel free to reach out. Helping people move beyond these old stories is one of my greatest joys. FREE CONSULTATION